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It is not uncommon for women to have heavy mood
swings just after pregnancy. If these swings are
extremely severe, they may be caused by Postpartum
Depression (PPD). If it seems serious, consult a
counselor or psychiatrist who has experience with
postpartum depression.
Many people do not understand that postpartum
depression is a physical disorder. It is not something
that people can simply snap out of. A depressed mother
can no more snap out of postpartum depression than you
could snap out of the flu or bronchitis.
Although there is not a surefire cure for postpartum
depression, there is a lot that you can do to make the
new mom feel as comfortable as possible. Support and
encouragement are invaluable. Encourage her to consider
support groups. Social isolation will intensify
postpartum depression. Remind her that the illness is
only temporary and she will get better.
General fatigue is a common sign of postpartum
depression, and is often accompanied by a lack of
motivation, inability to concentrate, loss of memory,
and lowered interest in sex and activities that were
previously enjoyed. Assist mom with this by helping her
to develop a to-do list or schedule of tasks. At this
point in time, you may need to take on nearly all baby
related tasks. You can even help out with breast
feeding, especially for those late night snacks. Get out
of bed and get the baby, bring him to the mother and
help him to latch on and switch sides when he's through
on one side or the other. Throughout it all, mom can remain only
half-awake, and will certainly thank you in the
morning.
Postpartum depression can lead to tension and anxiety
which can cause headaches, neck pain, and chest
tightness. Mom may also start feeling panicked or
worried all the time. There are many things that she can
do to relieve this tension. Suggest walking, swimming,
yoga and meditation, massage, or hot compresses on the
neck and shoulders. If she develops insomnia, try a warm
bath before bed, a sleeping mask or earplugs, or a light
snack and warm milk to help her sleep.
A combination of the postpartum depression, tension,
and insomnia can easily lead a mother into distorted
thinking and cause her to become unreasonable. She may
resent your attempt at helping her or get angry for no
reason. Keep in mind that it is the changes in her body
that are making her act that way. Try not to take her
criticism personally. Even if she is being unreasonable,
do not argue with her. Avoid blaming her attitude on her
hormones if that makes her angry. Some women cannot
stand the accusation that they are not in control of
their emotions. If you begin feeling worried that you
can't handle what's happening, do not hesitate to seek
counseling for yourself. Support people often need help
too.
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